There are more than one type of inequlity and some that are the results of conscious attepts to be the dominant group. I conducted a reserch in 1990 to see why there were so few Black women in my orbit of living life, in places with at least a 12.5 percent AA population. Well, the first place I looked was the history of segregation in the Armed Forces that put Black men in countries and on American soil where there were no Black women at all. Wherever there is an Armed Forces base there will be more interracial relationship that have nothing to do with what a man really wants but what he as a man will accept.
There are more than one type of inequlity and some that are the results of conscious attepts to be the dominant group. I conducted a reserch in 1990 to see why there were so few Black women in my orbit of living life, in places with at least a 12.5 percent AA population. Well, the first place I looked was the history of segregation in the Armed Forces that put Black men in countries and on American soil where there were no Black women at all. Wherever there is an Armed Forces base there will be more interracial relationship that have nothing to do with what a man really wants but what he as a man will accept.
We're inexplicably loyal to black men. Further translation: We're not as attracted to men of other races as we are to black men. Just the way it is for the majority of black women in this country. Ask any of them that are still waiting for a black man.
Some Black women are inexplicably loyal to black men but many are not. Not any more. I don't care who BM date or marry. I have not dated a Black man in over a decade and I know several BW who think the same way I do.
We're inexplicably loyal to black men. Further translation: We're not as attracted to men of other races as we are to black men. Just the way it is for the majority of black women in this country. Ask any of them that are still waiting for a black man.
Some Black women are inexplicably loyal to black men but many are not. Not any more. I don't care who BM date or marry. I have not dated a Black man in over a decade and I know several BW who think the same way I do.
Maybe Black women are attracted to black men but seems that they are atracted to each other just as much if not more. One reason I date women of different races is the pool of eligible black women is slowly shrinking. They either are users, money hungry or seekers of their own kind. I tire of games that black women play. I know I'm no Nubian King but I treat all women with the class and dignity they exude. Why then can't we find black women who appreciate a man for himself and not what he can do for her, or how fine he is. None the less i'll keep looking.
Maybe Black women are attracted to black men but seems that they are atracted to each other just as much if not more. One reason I date women of different races is the pool of eligible black women is slowly shrinking. They either are users, money hungry or seekers of their own kind. I tire of games that black women play. I know I'm no Nubian King but I treat all women with the class and dignity they exude. Why then can't we find black women who appreciate a man for himself and not what he can do for her, or how fine he is. None the less i'll keep looking.
all i know is im attracted to black women. it's a number 1 choice for me. I don't mind dating hispanic. white american is the last preference. asian is ok.
all i know is im attracted to black women. it's a number 1 choice for me. I don't mind dating hispanic. white american is the last preference. asian is ok.
I think it has a lot to do with personal experiences. I have no problem with black men dating other races. I encourage it. I myself just dont have a lot in common with most black men, and our values are usually too different. So the fact that black men are going for other races is not a threat to me...its a plus.
I think it has a lot to do with personal experiences. I have no problem with black men dating other races. I encourage it. I myself just dont have a lot in common with most black men, and our values are usually too different. So the fact that black men are going for other races is not a threat to me...its a plus.
Wow! What a topic! Just for general information: there are many white men who are looking for wives from many different countries. They are not into white american women at all. They are into different cultures for their reasons. After all it is a free market. We live in 2010 thanks God:) Every man/woman has a right to love and to choose the person he/she wants/loves. Color has nothing to do with it, but "culture" does:) Who said, "You must marry from your own race !" ?
Wow! What a topic! Just for general information: there are many white men who are looking for wives from many different countries. They are not into white american women at all. They are into different cultures for their reasons. After all it is a free market. We live in 2010 thanks God:) Every man/woman has a right to love and to choose the person he/she wants/loves. Color has nothing to do with it, but "culture" does:) Who said, "You must marry from your own race !" ?
Which is very damming to black women; no way would I spend my life waiting on a black or any man for that matter. Black women really need to open their options. Why waste your life waiting on men that are clearly into other women? Very tragic to me; I opened up long ago and not looking back. I'm doing what others are doing; exercising my options.
Which is very damming to black women; no way would I spend my life waiting on a black or any man for that matter. Black women really need to open their options. Why waste your life waiting on men that are clearly into other women? Very tragic to me; I opened up long ago and not looking back. I'm doing what others are doing; exercising my options.
I like your topics. I can understand both sides of the coin here. I agree that honest dialogue is needed. It appears that both men and women are hurting and are a bit jaded from our experiences dating within our respective races. Thus our openess to be on this site in the first place. I have to admit, I am not perfect so I can't securely hold the "it's them, not me" banner. Within each race there are men and woman who feel as though they don't have to settle and will be given importance in the life of a mate of another race. Many feel this way because they've had good experiences with interracial dating and others because there is a general assumption that woman/men from another race are more compassionate and will be more appreciative of what they hav eto offer. I want to believe I'm very open minded. But when given the choice on this site to select my ideal companion, I chose white. My experience has informed that choice for me as well. Although, I'd like to believe, if a gentleman of any race were a match for me I would not exclude him solely because I had a few bad dates or a bad relationship with a man of that race. It seems as though EVERY single person is on some website looking for a match. However the majority of them can't find a solitary sole to build a life with. When my membership expires, I will go it the old fashioned way. I will purge myself of dating via this medium because expectations are extremely unrealistic. I admit, I have become unrealistic as well. This process reminds me of mail-order brides. The only difference is that women no longer need a man for survival and now have their own set of qualities they are looking for in a mate and expectations for a relationship. Nobody is willing to give love a chance or compromise because they feel they can just go online and meet someone better. I do hope I am fortunate to meet someone who can grow to appreciate me for the unique woman that I am however it pobably won't happen via this medium. Partly because there is a lot of spam here and because many of the guys here are too far away for anything meaningful. Well enough armchair analysis for one evening. I do hope you all find what you seek! I appreciate you taking the time to raise these issues.
I like your topics. I can understand both sides of the coin here. I agree that honest dialogue is needed. It appears that both men and women are hurting and are a bit jaded from our experiences dating within our respective races. Thus our openess to be on this site in the first place. I have to admit, I am not perfect so I can't securely hold the "it's them, not me" banner. Within each race there are men and woman who feel as though they don't have to settle and will be given importance in the life of a mate of another race. Many feel this way because they've had good experiences with interracial dating and others because there is a general assumption that woman/men from another race are more compassionate and will be more appreciative of what they hav eto offer. I want to believe I'm very open minded. But when given the choice on this site to select my ideal companion, I chose white. My experience has informed that choice for me as well. Although, I'd like to believe, if a gentleman of any race were a match for me I would not exclude him solely because I had a few bad dates or a bad relationship with a man of that race. It seems as though EVERY single person is on some website looking for a match. However the majority of them can't find a solitary sole to build a life with. When my membership expires, I will go it the old fashioned way. I will purge myself of dating via this medium because expectations are extremely unrealistic. I admit, I have become unrealistic as well. This process reminds me of mail-order brides. The only difference is that women no longer need a man for survival and now have their own set of qualities they are looking for in a mate and expectations for a relationship. Nobody is willing to give love a chance or compromise because they feel they can just go online and meet someone better. I do hope I am fortunate to meet someone who can grow to appreciate me for the unique woman that I am however it pobably won't happen via this medium. Partly because there is a lot of spam here and because many of the guys here are too far away for anything meaningful. Well enough armchair analysis for one evening. I do hope you all find what you seek! I appreciate you taking the time to raise these issues.
Maybe I wasn't clear enough in my comment. The kind of loyalty I'm talking about is a collective loyalty that black women have to dating black men. I'm not talking about individual cases of cheating, talking to others regarding things about your man that you have no business talking about, or anything like that. As a group of people, the majority black women stubbornly hang onto the notion that they will not date and/or marry anyone other than black men. I said inexplicably loyal previously because black women are being attacked by black men for all manner of perceived "transgressions". The amount of disrespect we've seen in the media lately from black men toward black women has been really illuminating to me. But still, black women don't seem to let that disrespect alter their attitudes, desire and beliefs about black men. I can't quite make sense out of that...
Maybe I wasn't clear enough in my comment. The kind of loyalty I'm talking about is a collective loyalty that black women have to dating black men. I'm not talking about individual cases of cheating, talking to others regarding things about your man that you have no business talking about, or anything like that. As a group of people, the majority black women stubbornly hang onto the notion that they will not date and/or marry anyone other than black men. I said inexplicably loyal previously because black women are being attacked by black men for all manner of perceived "transgressions". The amount of disrespect we've seen in the media lately from black men toward black women has been really illuminating to me. But still, black women don't seem to let that disrespect alter their attitudes, desire and beliefs about black men. I can't quite make sense out of that...
Everything you've touched on is indeed a true problem. The biggest part of the problem is denial. Do you notice when black men point out the flaws in the behavior of our women...every SINGLE solitary one of them says "I'M not like that!" Allllll of these black men aren't making this crap up!! The rate of interracial marriage (black men and women of other races)isn't going up and up and UP by accident! If a black man can't look in the mirror, or take 'constructive criticism' from black women we're not being a man. Soooon as we observe and speak on bulls*** behavior, we get "Not ME!! That's them other sistas!!!" After a while, it just turns into this....I don't have to put up with anyones crappy attitude and I'm not going to. You call it being 'strong'. I call it being annoying. Strong is waking up in the morning and walking out your front door, a black MAN, in this society everyday. Until a real dialogue is opened about this mass attitude that these sisters have, the interracial thing is just going to keep going up. By dialogue, I mean acceptance AND improvement. Every man has his downfalls. It just seems to me that black women are the only women that feel the need to point out every single, tiny, itsy-bitsy, insignificant one of them. Strange thing is, I didn't come to this conclusion by dating white women, asian women, latino women. I gathered this info by dating BLACK women. I'm single, no kids, my own house and car, not hard on the eyes.....and I still catch flack. It's drab. It's boring. It's been done. It's been worn thin, and the only place that attitude looks good is in a Tyler Perry play (because the actresses are so fine no one notices!)but more importantly, it's not cute. Women are often given more assistance then men, so being black is one thing. Being a BLACK MAN is another. Unless you can grow a penis, pecs, and goatee overnight, you'll never know what that is truly like. A black man can have a rough day just for who he is on any given day; we shouldn't have to have a rough evening at home too. Consider that next time you walk in the door complaining. And if you're alone with few real prospects, consider this may be a reason why.
Everything you've touched on is indeed a true problem. The biggest part of the problem is denial. Do you notice when black men point out the flaws in the behavior of our women...every SINGLE solitary one of them says "I'M not like that!" Allllll of these black men aren't making this crap up!! The rate of interracial marriage (black men and women of other races)isn't going up and up and UP by accident! If a black man can't look in the mirror, or take 'constructive criticism' from black women we're not being a man. Soooon as we observe and speak on bulls*** behavior, we get "Not ME!! That's them other sistas!!!" After a while, it just turns into this....I don't have to put up with anyones crappy attitude and I'm not going to. You call it being 'strong'. I call it being annoying. Strong is waking up in the morning and walking out your front door, a black MAN, in this society everyday. Until a real dialogue is opened about this mass attitude that these sisters have, the interracial thing is just going to keep going up. By dialogue, I mean acceptance AND improvement. Every man has his downfalls. It just seems to me that black women are the only women that feel the need to point out every single, tiny, itsy-bitsy, insignificant one of them. Strange thing is, I didn't come to this conclusion by dating white women, asian women, latino women. I gathered this info by dating BLACK women. I'm single, no kids, my own house and car, not hard on the eyes.....and I still catch flack. It's drab. It's boring. It's been done. It's been worn thin, and the only place that attitude looks good is in a Tyler Perry play (because the actresses are so fine no one notices!)but more importantly, it's not cute. Women are often given more assistance then men, so being black is one thing. Being a BLACK MAN is another. Unless you can grow a penis, pecs, and goatee overnight, you'll never know what that is truly like. A black man can have a rough day just for who he is on any given day; we shouldn't have to have a rough evening at home too. Consider that next time you walk in the door complaining. And if you're alone with few real prospects, consider this may be a reason why.
We're inexplicably loyal to black men. Further translation: We're not as attracted to men of other races as we are to black men. Just the way it is for the majority of black women in this country. Ask any of them that are still waiting for a black man.
We're inexplicably loyal to black men. Further translation: We're not as attracted to men of other races as we are to black men. Just the way it is for the majority of black women in this country. Ask any of them that are still waiting for a black man.
